Wajahat Ali kicks off his “Muslims Talking Sex” series on GOATMILK with a piece I wrote about virginity! Check it out:
Notice both definitions admit that not all women are born with hymens. Hymens are as varied as women themselves: some hymens never come to be, some are so delicate that they tear without cause, some are so stubborn they must be surgically removed for a woman to have intercourse or give birth. Despite the fact that hymens are too varied and unreliable to serve as an indicator of virginity, this is precisely how they are used.